By Tamera Ryan | Organized chaos. It’s been my mantra for the majority of my life. As I near the end of the first half of my 30s, I am consistently reminded that this is not how adults are supposed to function. We are supposed to have our lives together. Most of my friends are married with careers and houses and kids who are well-dressed. They certainly didn’t choose to go back to school at the craziest time of their lives.
We spend so much time comparing ourselves. So much effort goes into being like this friend or not like that friend or as good as this girl’s sister that you know because she seems like she really knows what’s going on. Life is messy.
I currently have t-shirt orders all over my room that need to be heat-set and a baby blanket that needs to get here before the baby that is supposed to be born in less than a month. I’ve only been working on it since June. I have a full load of work things – I’m actually writing this on my two-hour dinner break from work because on Tuesdays I work from 8 a.m. until 10 p.m. or later. I also did some homework and have to watch an online class module at some point.
We hold a capacity that is beyond our dreams. We can do big things, but we have to discontinue letting our comparisons to others get us down because that drags us below capacity. Think of a few ways you can broaden your capacity this week. What can you say no to in order to say yes to yourself? What can you cut out this week to give yourself a moment to breathe? What can you do to broaden your capacity and how can you fit in time for your goals between classes and social obligations and work?
Take some time for you this week – make time for something you enjoy and you’ll be surprised to see how it can lift your spirits.