By Jordan Givens | “The best six weeks, you will never want to relive.” This is what many people refer to as pledging.
If you have chosen to embark on the journey that is being a potential new member (PNM) this survival guide is for you.
Pray. And Pray again.
Former Member of Pi Theta Chi, Mackenzie Langham shares the importance of asking “God to lead you in the right direction, and whether you should even join a sorority or fraternity.” It is better to disappoint man than to be out of God’s will. While it may seem like an insignificant thing to pray about, God cares about what organization you join.”
Delta Chi Rho’s current Sargent at Arms, Parker Hughes, encourages anyone who is considering Greek Life to “not go where your friends are going if that is not where God is calling you… Follow peace not the crowd.”
Kappa Kappa Psi member, Savannah Burrow also reminds that even once the PNM process is over, it still takes, “lots of prayer to thrive in Greek life.”
Prioritize
The 6 weeks PNM process can be extremely hectic, from events to interviews and everything in between, it is important to remember that schoolwork must come first.
Senior IXA member Francisco Benitz says, “Time management is key, you cannot forget about academics.”
If you cannot properly manage your time, reach out to a member. They want you in their organization, they will work with you to make sure you stay on top of your schoolwork. Senior Pi Theta Chi member Taylor Davis also shares that everyone needs to just “take it day by day. “ There is no need to get worked up and overwhelmed
Reach Out
Delta Chi Rho Member Mackynlie Conklin says, “get to know the members…why be a part of an organization if you do not put in the effort to learn each member and who they are as a person?”
Members take note of who reaches out to them and makes the effort. It will say a lot about your commitment to the organization if you make the first move. Again, the members want you to be a part, do not feel intimidated by them. They have all been in your place.
Reaching out can go farther than just reaching out to members. It is important to reach out to your friends and family as you go through the pledging process. It is also important to reach out to them because you may not have as much time to spend with them. Be intentional about your friendships and relationships outside of the organization.
Have a Good Attitude
One’s mindset can make or break the pledging experience. If you go into the process with a negative outlook, then it is going to be a rough ride. Whether you just earned a demerit, or a member got upset with you, “always remember why you joined,” says Delta Chi Rho Alumni Maggie Van Nes.
It is Not for Everyone
If at there is ever a time where you feel threaten or “hazed,” go to Student life and file a report, and it is okay to drop out if you feel like that is what is best. Mental health and safety should always be your number one priority.
Greek life can be a wonderful part of the college experience and can provide growth and life long friends.